A small gathering to honor the second year of Lucas’s passing

Written By Lisa Watt Banks

Our summer was a busy and emotional one, as we experienced the unexpected passing of another family member in June. The loss left me feeling raw and shifted our focus toward family time and healing. As the second anniversary of Lucas’s passing approached, I felt the need to keep our remembrance small and personal.

We chose to plant a tree at our home in Lyle, WA, along the driveway in a spot with a beautiful view. We invited family to join us, and each of us took a few quiet moments alone to write a message to Lucas on a piece of biodegradable paper. Together, we placed our notes into a bowl of water, stirred them gently, and then took turns pouring the water around the tree. It was an emotional and tender moment, but I could feel Lucas’s spirit reminding me to focus on the importance of laughter, joy, and finding moments of fun even in the midst of grief.

Lisa Watt Banks

Lisa Watt Banks holds a bachelor's degree in Sociology with a certificate in Social Work specializing in Children and Family Services. With over 30 years of experience working with children, youth, and families—including training new social workers with the Children’s Administration—she brings deep compassion and expertise to her work. Over the pas ten years, Lisa has facilitated support groups for middle school youth, focusing on navigating big emotions in healthy ways and led Teen Mental Health First Aid sessions. She is also a certified 200-hour Vinyasa Flow Yoga instructor and holds a certificate in Nature-Informed Therapy and the Sacred Path of Aloha with Kumu Ramsay Taum.

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